This Relationship Advice page is part of my Relationships series...
Tip #1 - Communicate
Clear, open communication is vital for a successful relationship. Poor communication and an inability to talk can be a sign of a bad relationship, and one that's not 100%
Good communication is the only way you can tell your partner who you are, what you want and why you behave the way you do.
Talking and listening enables you to find out each other’s needs. Understand what your partner's needs are too, by really listening to them. Think about what your own needs are and tell your partner. If your needs are not being met, say so, and negotiate. Only by talking and listening, in equal measure, will your relationship develop and flourish. Good communication is about learning to say openly and honestly exactly what you think and feel. So...
Tip #2 - Don't go to bed on an argument
If you have a disagreement about something, try to understand each other's point of view, and don't finish the day seething, upset or bitter towards your partner.
Kiss and make up and promise to work things out together. A healthy relationship has a key element of mutual respect for one another. It's okay to disagree but you must respect each other’s opinions and differences, and settle them with love for each other.
Tip #3 - Love and respect yourself
Take care of yourself. Eat healthily, exercise and always try to look your very best. Feeling good about yourself will help you love yourself. If you can’t or don’t love yourself, it's hard for you to believe that anyone else will.
Good self-esteem is important for a successful relationship. When you truly love yourself, despite any faults or weaknesses you may have, you'll feel confident. And when you feel confident and secure within yourself, you can enjoy being with your partner for the joy they bring to your life, not because you feel you need them to survive.
Tip #5 - Honesty and trust
Being honest is crucial to a healthy relationship.
Some white lies might be OK, but if you feel you have to lie or hide things from your partner ask yourself - why?
If you feel you can’t trust your partner, then this is a sign of a bad relationship. For example, you know you’re in a good relationship when you don’t worry about your partner being unfaithful to you. They simply would not cheat on you if they truly love you.
Tip #6 - Be friends
Your relationship must be based on a solid, underlying friendship. Friends talk, laugh, share, and do things they're interested in together. Your partner should be your best friend.
If you genuinely like each other as friends, enjoy being together, agree with how each other thinks and behaves, and share the same dreams in life, then you are in a successful relationship.
Tip #7 - Touch each other
Physical touching is a vital human need. Being caressed lowers blood pressure and releases natural opiates in the brain, as well as the chemical oxytocin, which is essential for human pair-bonding.
Touching, holding hands, a kiss, a hug - all these are good signs of a great relationship.
Tip #8 - Don't spend more than 3 nights apart
The bond that is created between two people is strenghtened by intimacy. Spendind long periods apart should be avoided if possible, as this could loosen and weaken this close bond, which binds successful loving partners.
Tip #9 - Your place is with your partner
It is not right to spend time away from your partner in the company of other people. Constantly prefering the company of others is a sign of a poor relationship. Not being able to be with some friends or family members when you are together is a bad sign too.
If your partner is uncomfortable with some people you know or members of your family, and visa versa, ask yourself why.
Tip #10 - Make sure he or she is the One
The best Top Tip for a successful relationship is not to settle for anyone less than you deserve. You deserve the best. You deserve to be happy in your life - don't pass up the chance.
Dump anyone who doesn't match up to what you want and get looking - it will be exciting!